Long Long Day

Everyday's encounter keeps reminding me how different people are in this world. It is commonplace for us to assume, or at least hope, that people function in similar ways as we do. I am not exactly sure if it is genetics or different environments in which people are brought up that shape people's personalities and help them to form their own ways of seeing the world and handling day to day chores. The world presents us with multifarious characters, who make our every day life interesting and every encounter full of excitement, less mundane.

Nevertheless, the apparent disparity can be quickly drawn from the short paragraph above. Expectations sometimes derail us from otherwise simple tasks. When we expect others to behave in one way and the reality is that they're more likely to be different, we get often times frustrated at the expectations failed.

I see two solutions to this problem. One, we expect differently. Two, we stop expecting. You might expect we humans to learn from past failure and quickly adapt our expectations to the real-world case. Quickly though, I predict this solution to fail simply at the challenge of the daunting task of getting to know a person in his entirety. We usually only know people at their face values for lack of sensory faculties to see beyond. And the fact that we don't usually know other people renders our expectations more likely to bifurcate from the reality. The natural evolvement of such failure is, without any doubt, the shear frustration that is so strong that we give up expecting at all, i.e. solution 2!

If we know that is where we will end up with, why do not we begin with it and avoid all the hassels? Well, in real life cases, I don't object to the idea of a small mixture of both where there are definitely people we know inside out and can feel comfortable wage our expectations with. For the rest, please be advised that you're better off simply let it be and stop want/make it be.